is shameless self-promoter. >> are you getting defensive? >> you seem defensive. >> that's the next point. career killer. >> this is a problem, too be more diplomatic don't get defensive. >> that makes perfect sense. i predict you might do the third one, mike. making a rash decision. >> yeah. many times things will come out of my mouth but here is the problem. i know it's an inappropriate thing to say but it comes out anyway. that is a rash decision. >> making rash decisions. >> it's always better. there is some reasons happened in my family life. i don't know what it was. i know that if i reacted immediately to it then it would have been bad. i waited like a day and i think i called my parents. i don't know what it was. it ended up being better that i waited. >> that's maturity. >> i know. in my 20's i wouldn't have done that. >> the next one i think is important. do i think this is even better than being a self-promoter the mistake you make is not being assertive. you should be aer assertive. you should speak up for what you want the squeaky wheel gets the worm. i may be mixing them up.